I care about how people are doing, how they're feeling, what's new in their life and their plans for their future. I actually enjoy having long conversations about this and that; about good times and bad times; about mistakes that have been made and the aspirations, dreams & goals to be conquered. I even enjoy talking about a favorite show on TV or a movie that's out. Let's face it I'm a people person & I love interacting with...guess what? People!
Every now and then we all run into a person (I'm thankful that it's not very often) that no matter the season, month, week, day or hour they're just BLAH! You know what BLAH means right? They just can't seem to shake off the "ho-hum", woe-ways me attitude/mentality. PEOPLE!!!! Shake it off...it's not cute! lol! Seriously, it really is NOT cute! Don't get me wrong we all get in our moods from time to time and need to vent; and we all should have that awesome friend that is there to lend an ear and kick the ho-hums out of us and lift our spirits! THANK GOD I have more than a handful of great awesome friends....and I'd like to think that I too am that awesome friend right back to them.
Anyway, I found myself having one of those ho-hum people in my life. One of those, lets call it a TOXIC person. At first I really liked her, we would chit chat and laugh; a real friendship. Then during each conversation little by little she would bring up how unlucky she is, or how bad things are and I would do my best to cheer her up and turn her mood around. Then I found myself talking to her in a way to make her feel that she's not alone by sharing how things aren't so great with me either......BAD!!!! That's not good! Talk about misery loves company. She totally dragged me into her ho-hum world...and I did it because I didn't want her to feel as if I was throwing my awesome life in her face. What the HECK is that about???? I mean my life wasn't/isn't grandiose and I do want more out of life but I am thankful and I do love and appreciate my life.
Please tell me I'm not the only one who has ever done this? Please!!!! LOL!
So, I said all that to say that its OK to vent just don't lose HOPE; don't lose the cheer in your voice, the pep in your step, the JOY in your life....because when you lose those things, you lose friends (and even family); and worse yet you lose yourself.
Feeling BLAH! and want to feel more like this? Lose the TOXIC in YOU |
The next time someone ask you "How are you doing?" remember its OK to really say how you're doing but don't drag it on, don't live in it, don't lose HOPE, don't lose your JOY! Be HAPPY!!!! End your call, your visits, your days with a smile and a feeling of gratitude because we have soooo much to be thankful for. I know I do!
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To My Friends: I want to apologize for staying away at times; its because I don't want to be TOXIC to you and sometimes I just want to get past whatever grey cloud is lingering over me. I know you're there for me and I appreciate & LOVE you all; but sometimes...well, sometimes I feel like I just don't want to bring you down. When I'm down 'my misery doesn't love company'....I give it to God and pray it away.
Don't be toxic to others & definitely don't be toxic to yourself.
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Psalm 71:14
English Standard Version (ESV)
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